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It’s Time To Have The Money Talk With Your Partner

Whether you’re in a relationship or about to tie the knot, it’s best to know where you mate’s mind is on financial habits and status.

In my years of hosting workshops and keynotes, many have approached me inquiring about the ideal time to discuss the topic of money with a significant other. Early in my professional career, I often offered a time frame of after about six to eight months. However, as I have worked with more and more couples, I have realized there isn’t an exact timeline suited for everyone.
Now, when I receive the “money talk” question, I simply say that it needs to take place somewhere between seriously dating and saying, “I do.” I wouldn’t encourage anyone to waste their time discussing the topic of money with someone who hasn’t made it past the fourth date, nor would I approve of waiting until after getting married to have the discussion. The answer is in between the two.

With the number of people waiting until later in life to marry, the amount of income and assets being brought into marriages are increasing. People have worked hard professionally to achieve their positions and salary by the time they arrive at the median age of marriage, so it’s important to connect with someone who carries a similar value and understanding of how you view, or desire to view money. By no means am I saying that both people need to be financial gurus, but I will say it’s absolutely necessary for two people to discuss the following.
How much debt do you have?

Do you believe in joint or separate bank accounts?

This is a decision that needs to be discussed up front so it doesn’t cause a messy distraction later on. Some couples choose to manage their household finance like roommates, where each is responsible for specific household expenses and pay from separate accounts. Others decide to pool their money together and manage monthly expenses from a joint account. Ultimately, you have to determine what makes the most sense for your relationship.
What are your credit scores?

Credit scoring is becoming more and more important in relationships and marriage. Imagine wanting to purchase your dream home only to learn that your spouse’s credit won’t afford you the opportunity to do so, or learning that you have to put major purchases in your name to avoid paying double-digit interest rates? Fortunately, your credit scores can be improved over time and with discipline. However, it’s a great idea to share your credit scores prior to marriage so you can begin the rebuilding process.
The timing of the money talk will vary based on the duration of your relationship, the openness of communication you share together and willingness to address this specific issue. An ideal time to address the topic is during the premarital counseling process. This is often the time where you intentionally address specific topics including spirituality, family, communication, conflict, sex, and more.
The money talk is important, so don’t wait until after “I do” to learn the money habits of your significant other.
Article Written by Kenny Pugh 
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Source: Black Enterprise


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